James W. Inspirational Thoughts

  If you don't know, say you don't know, and feel free to seek out the answers. It's not good to offer an opinion on something you've never experienced or share a commonology on the topic. You're being disingenuous to the person your conversing with otherwise.

  If the fear of falling in love is the sole reason for avoiding relationships, why are you daydreaming about it secretly? If you desire to one day attain companionship, why not receive private counseling for it? Nobody has to know about it, seek professional help and release those demons residing in your inner soul.

  It's not out of the way to love someone you once hated, something that's never talked about. What provokes such a shift? How can hate turn to love? Perhaps it was something discovered that was missed along the way, or maybe some misunderstanding through ignorance that generated such disdain in the first place?

  Common sense proceeds you if you think you know what it takes to sustain a relationship and you've never been married. Your voice falls on deaf ears if your a middle aged adult currently not in a relationship. How do you get this far in life and love continues to avoid you? With age comes wisdom and a better understanding on life correct? Perhaps that doesn't apply to the African American population that currently sits at 31% in marriages in the US. They forgot to read the memo on how to sustain a healthy relationship?

  Learn and condition yourself to love without allowing hatred to enter your heart. Love is an extremely difficult thing to maintain once you allow your heart to be influenced. Love isn't perfect, nor is the person you fell in love with. If infidelity is the premise for terminating a relationship, your heart is in the wrong place. Love is suppose to hurt because it generates strength.

  Why is it so hard to forgive? Is it because of the pain that was inflicted on you? Please understand, in the heat of the moment, pain often time overrides forgiveness, that's normal. However, lack of forgiveness will only extend the pain, preventing you from healing. Through healing comes forgiveness, and with forgiveness comes strength. Remember this, forgiveness and healing run hand and hand together, it's no other way around it.