James W. Inspirational Thoughts

  It's not out of the way to love someone you once hated, something that's never talked about. What provokes such a shift? How can hate turn to love? Perhaps it was something discovered that was missed along the way, or maybe some misunderstanding through ignorance that generated such disdain in the first place?

  Common sense proceeds you if you think you know what it takes to sustain a relationship and you've never been married. Your voice falls on deaf ears if your a middle aged adult currently not in a relationship. How do you get this far in life and love continues to avoid you? With age comes wisdom and a better understanding on life correct? Perhaps that doesn't apply to the African American population that currently sits at 31% in marriages in the US. They forgot to read the memo on how to sustain a healthy relationship?

  Learn and condition yourself to love without allowing hatred to enter your heart. Love is an extremely difficult thing to maintain once you allow your heart to be influenced. Love isn't perfect, nor is the person you fell in love with. If infidelity is the premise for terminating a relationship, your heart is in the wrong place. Love is suppose to hurt because it generates strength.

  Why is it so hard to forgive? Is it because of the pain that was inflicted on you? Please understand, in the heat of the moment, pain often time overrides forgiveness, that's normal. However, lack of forgiveness will only extend the pain, preventing you from healing. Through healing comes forgiveness, and with forgiveness comes strength. Remember this, forgiveness and healing run hand and hand together, it's no other way around it.

  A guilty person that has a distaste for you can portray themselves in a plethora of disguises, as they right under your nose in plain view. That person is someone you've known for a very long time that you currently remain in close relations with. Who is it? Just remember, they are in plain view, just open your eyes and remain silent.

  Your life was pre scripted the moment you were born, only God knew the outcome. It's nothing you can do to change the past, it's nothing you can do to manipulate the future. Only God knows your destiny. However, if yesterday matters more to you than today, you have no future. Today is all you have in front of you, nothing more.

  When was the last time you told yourself I love you? You have to love yourself before you can love someone else, it all starts with you.

  Sometimes we experience problems we wish never happened. But the truth of the matter is, problems do not go away by pretending they never existed.

  Did you know that the sky is not actually blue? The true atmosphere is seen at night when the sky is black. That same pattern can be applied to life itself. Did you know it's scriptures from the bible that are never spoken in the church? It's a reason for that. Do yourself a favor, learn those scriptures and bring them to life without speaking on them. Do that and you'll never view life the same.

  Life is filled with positives, negatives, hurt and pain. But the one thing that many people of today struggle with, is acceptance. It's the one area that generates indifferent responses, pending the person you're dealing with. Most times it generates anger and denial because it provokes that individual to face the truth. Many struggle with moving forward in life because they can't stop reflecting on the past. You can't see in front of you if you're always looking back.

  It's nothing wrong with being a failure, nor does it define you as a bad person. You have to shake it off, understanding that life goes on. Pick yourself up, dust yourself off and create a new plan of action.

  The genesis of all the problems that occurred in your life starts with you. You can create all the excuses your heart desires, despite the pain you've incurred, that arrow still points back to you. If it's inner peace your heart desires, be accountable for those self inflicted wounds and peace will soon follow.

  If only you could get out of your own head, it could potentially put you in a better place.

  Society would have you to believe it's winners and losers during divorces involving children. So let's be perfectly clear, anything involving children during domestic break ups, children are always the loser. And for those that think having a degree along with a successful career defines success being raised by a single parent, you're wrong, that child is still the loser.

  It comes a time in life you outgrow the things you once took so personal during those youthful years. You evolve away from taking things so personal because you understand that life moves on. And although that may be hard for some people, it's called growth.

 Do you realize how badly you are consumed with negative thoughts? Some people are so preprogrammed on thinking negative, they miss out on blessings waiting for them. It's no such thing as negative hypotheticals on "if it were meant to be God would allow you to have it", that's nonsense. It's no place in the bible God condones negative thinking and lost hope. Negative thinking generates depression and failure. Positive thinking generates positive results. 

  It's the smallest things in life that go unnoticed. Those unnoticed subtleties can generate enormous pleasure designed to extend great health and life longevity. On the other hand, ignoring those subtleties can shorten your lifespan as well as create unhappiness in your life.

  Love can hurt in so many ways, and not just relationships. It can be a family member, close friend, incarceration, an animal or even a stranger being harmed. Life has an plethora of ways it can cut your soul to the core and hurt you. And even though life has a loaded arsenal of way to hurt you, only God has the cure in healing all those wounds.

  If someone gives you knowledge on something you know absolutely nothing about, how can you dispute the person giving you the knowledge? That makes absolutely no sense, think about it.

  If you truly want to find peace, exercise forgiveness as it cleanses the heart. And most importantly, be honest with yourself, stop living the life of a charade and be truthful. Because the one great thing about telling the truth, you never forget.