James W. Inspirational Thoughts

Have you ever had someone try to give you healthy advice, but didn't know how to give healthy advice? For example, some people will give you advice (without) an option. That's not good advice, because life itself ALWAYS gives us an option. You can't help someone using close ended techniques, as if to say its this way or no way. Healthy advice is advice that has options, allowing that person to pick and choose the direction they want to go in. Advice without an option is like backing a person into a corner without an outlet, forcefully coercing them into your way of thinking, and that's not good.

If a person says something mean to you, only to turn around and proclaim to not mean any harm by it, how can you not take those words serious? Sure, anyone can reverse course and say it was only meant in humor, but even in humor, hidden messages can be decoded to find what your heart truly meant. That's why its always important to be careful in the words you speak, and be quick to listen, because once those words are spoken, you cannot take them back, as your heart is genuine in the words you speak despite its intentions.

If you aren't willing to share the (full) story about who you are as a person, don't share all the great things about yourself in efforts to elevate yourself above the average person? So many people want to boast and brag about their lives, yet aren't willing to share the things that might make people judge them. Now unless you're being a testimony to someone in need, why not just keep your fairy tale stories to yourself? Our private lives aren't for public consumption. And besides, God totally despises of people that boast and brag, its against his beliefs, and we should honor that with respect. Because one thing is certain, we all have skeletons in our closets, as we've all done and thought things we absolutely want nobody to know, and you know it.

Do you believe in rituals? It's subjective in that some are good, some are bad, and some are just flat out ridiculous. But then isn't that the foundation this country thrives on? Some will call it rituals, others call it traditions, its just according to how its presented, big deal. Irregardless of your thoughts or opinions, its a belief that many people support for various reasons. mainly as a reminder of something/someone admired. But do you truly need a landmark as a reminder? It's only so many of these so called anniversaries you can fulfill anyways, otherwise your life is one big self created landmine, created to keep you reflected back on the past.

If all your desires you ever wanted were met, where would you be today? Before answering that question, lets not confuse desires with necessities, seeing as its a contrast difference between the two. Lets also keep in mind the depth of those desires, and understand that not everything is built for public consumption, so being honest with yourself is an absolute must. So now that we have that out of the way, lets pose that question once more. Where would you be today if all the desires you ever wanted were met?

You wake up to the same thing today that you experienced yesterday. You've now realized you're getting older because your days all look the same(so they appear). Now where do you go from here? You've unconsciously molded, manipulated, conditioned, and strategically rearranged your entire life to fit YOUR comfort zone. And now that you've done that, you've become complacent in everything you do(routine), with every day now looking exactly the same. So much so that all your time has been monopolized based on YOUR creation, yet you wonder where all the years have gone? Your life has slipped away from you because you've accounted for every minute of the day(invisible to the naked eye).

When was the last time you've truly been hugged? Are you aware that in times of need, something as simple as a hug can generate enough electricity to relieve you of that unnecessary tension? In fact, its days you may not even be aware of how much tension you're carrying around, until you've received a hug from someone. FYI: Don't be selective with whom you desire to receive a hug from, because voluntary hugs are generated from God(unexpected), it's not your choice. God provides you with your necessities, not your desires, remember that.