James W. Inspirational Thoughts

  It's not out of the way to love someone you once hated, something that's never talked about. What provokes such a shift? How can hate turn to love? Perhaps it was something discovered that was missed along the way, or maybe some misunderstanding through ignorance that generated such disdain in the first place?

  Common sense proceeds you if you think you know what it takes to sustain a relationship and you've never been married. Your voice falls on deaf ears if your a middle aged adult currently not in a relationship. How do you get this far in life and love continues to avoid you? With age comes wisdom and a better understanding on life correct? Perhaps that doesn't apply to the African American population that currently sits at 31% in marriages in the US. They forgot to read the memo on how to sustain a healthy relationship?

  Learn and condition yourself to love without allowing hatred to enter your heart. Love is an extremely difficult thing to maintain once you allow your heart to be influenced. Love isn't perfect, nor is the person you fell in love with. If infidelity is the premise for terminating a relationship, your heart is in the wrong place. Love is suppose to hurt because it generates strength.

  Why is it so hard to forgive? Is it because of the pain that was inflicted on you? Please understand, in the heat of the moment, pain often time overrides forgiveness, that's normal. However, lack of forgiveness will only extend the pain, preventing you from healing. Through healing comes forgiveness, and with forgiveness comes strength. Remember this, forgiveness and healing run hand and hand together, it's no other way around it.

  A guilty person that has a distaste for you can portray themselves in a plethora of disguises, as they right under your nose in plain view. That person is someone you've known for a very long time that you currently remain in close relations with. Who is it? Just remember, they are in plain view, just open your eyes and remain silent.

  Your life was pre scripted the moment you were born, only God knew the outcome. It's nothing you can do to change the past, it's nothing you can do to manipulate the future. Only God knows your destiny. However, if yesterday matters more to you than today, you have no future. Today is all you have in front of you, nothing more.

  When was the last time you told yourself I love you? You have to love yourself before you can love someone else, it all starts with you.